Some are tired of being single, who punctuate their posts with the hashtag, #KelanPaLord. For some, being single equates to happiness, and they see it as a chance to learn from everything that has happened from the first date to the last one. For the NBSB, a time to continuously develop herself. But how exactly does being single makes you a better person from the point of breakup to moving on? Here are five lessons being single teaches you:
Lesson #1: Appreciation
You become a better person when you’re single because it is a time to appreciate yourself better. It is a time to focus on yourself and you to get to know yourself better.
Lesson #2: Respect (of self and others)
You learn to respect yourself more (for choosing to walk away or beginning to accept that the relationship won’t work) and to understand the reasons people choose one thing over the other.
Lesson #3: Patience
You will ask yourself the “whys” and the “what ifs.” You will cope with the questions from friends and family who witnessed a previous relationship fall apart and to understand their reasons for asking.
Lesson #4: Strength/Bravery
You learn to give yourself a pat on the back for finally moving on. You make choices that you will be proud of. In addition, you may or may not cut or color your hair and you may or may not like it.
Lesson #5: Independence
You learn to be happy and empowered because you are a woman, and it takes more than a heartbreak to break a woman apart. You will revel in your independence and discover you can do things you did not think you were capable of.
If experience is the best teacher, it certainly will have a lot to teach you, and the fun part is, it differs with every relationship you will have. The important thing is not to dwell on the bad parts of the past, learn from the good ones, and keep the latter in mind when you’re ready to fall in love again.
Now, let’s go find some beer.