Even the strongest Modern Filipina is not invincible to sadness. It happens even to the best of us.
When sadness comes, we deal with it in different ways: cry, talk to friends, distract ourselves, or listen to music. Sometimes, it helps us get over; other times, we find ourselves in the same old rut. And we hate that.
If you’re in a sad bubble, don’t worry. Here are some personal notes to keep in mind:
It’s Okay to Be Sad
It is humanly impossible to be happy all the time. Anyone who tells you it’s possible is kidding themselves.
When life gets you down, don’t hate yourself for being sad. If everything was always pleasant, then we wouldn’t appreciate what we have. Feelings—both good and bad—come and go. The trick is to accept your sadness, but not to dwell in it.
You Are Not Alone in the Struggle
It’s a lie most of us deal with: you are alone. You’re the only one with this problem. No one’s going to understand you.
That’s not true.
Little do you know that there are others who are also undergoing the same struggle. No man is an island, which means you’ll need others for support. Instead of shunning them away (because you think no one will understand), welcome them. Because to be honest, someone will always understand.
Someone Still Loves You
Being lonely is inevitable once in a while. Your friends are happy with their significant others, your siblings seem to be fine without you, you just broke up with someone—all of these events can convince you that no one loves you.
Don’t think that way.
You are BEAUTIFUL
Most women struggle with accepting themselves. With the world’s standard of beauty (e.g. small waist, porcelain skin, blemish-free face), it’s difficult not to compare yourself. When you see others who are prettier than you, insecurities happen. That’s why you feel sad.
But listen up, that shouldn’t be the case. Why? Because you are BEAUTIFUL.
Accept that fact: no one is as pretty as you. Your insecurities are the gems you hide because of standards. But who cares about standards? As Bruno Mars said, you are amazing just the way you are.
You Can Move Forward
Remember, even the darkest night has to end. Cliché as it sounds, the sun will rise sooner than you think. All you have to do is stay strong and power through. It’s hard at first, but when you take little steps, you’ll be surprised.
A year from now, you’ll be proud you’ve come this far.
Living the good life always comes with doses of sadness. We learn from the pain that we feel. Fortunately, it doesn’t have to be forever. You just have to be that strong and independent woman you were born to be!
We love you, Modern Filipina! Mabuhay ka!