Love is definitely no black and white matter, and determining if someone is in love with you can be tricky, even if you’ve been going out for a while already. If you find yourself on the verge of saying the L-word to your guy but aren’t quite sure if he feels the same way yet, here are some signs that might help you figure it out.
1. He takes a real interest in your life.
When a guy really cares about you, he’s going to take a deep interest in your life. I’m not just talking about him asking how your day was at work, it’s the subtext that will show you how he feels. Does he make an effort to get to know your family better and involve himself with your everyday interests? Does he show interest in things that you know he didn’t care about at all before he met you? These are some good signs that your guy is really in love with you.
2. He treats you with respect.
If your guy loves you, he’s going to treat you with respect, no ifs, ands, or buts about it. When you really love someone, you value them as a person and show it in your actions. If he actively seeks out your opinion and advice, valuing them as much as his own, it means that he has respect for you. Additionally, if he respects you, he won’t feel insecure when you have differences of opinions, as he knows yours are just as valid as his are. In order for there to be love, there must be respect, so if you feel like your guy totally respects you, it’s a sign that things are headed in the right direction.
3. He initiates snuggle sessions–without hopes of something more.
No one’s going to deny that it’s nice to have a bit more than just a cuddle… but romance isn’t just about always having sex all of the time. Does your guy ever initiate cuddle sessions, without trying to get a bit more out of it? When you really love someone, sex is great but sometimes, just holding the person you love close and enjoying their simple touch, with no sexual motives whatsoever, can be even better.
4. He includes you in plans for the distant future.
If your guy has already penciled you in as his plus one for that wedding in 6 months, it’s definitely a good sign of how he views your relationship. A guy who isn’t too sure about how he feels towards you yet isn’t going to risk the awkwardness of RSVPing with a plus one for an event that far off, because he’s not sure you’ll still be around then. When your man starts talking about future events and is expecting you to be at his side during them, it’s a pretty clear sign that he’s really in love with you.
5. He loves to show you off.
When you love something, you want to share it, right? The last time you read an amazing book or tried a new restaurant that you loved, you couldn’t stop talking about it for weeks. It’s the same thing when you love a person; you can’t get enough of them and you want to share how great they are with the world. If your guy is always telling his friends about your accomplishments or sharing with his family about the sweet thing you did for him last week, he just might be really and truly head over heels in love with you.
Time to stop wondering, if your man really loves you, the signs should be there. You shouldn’t have to look too deep to find out what your guy’s true feelings are, just look for these signs and you’ll have your answer!