Once upon a time, girl meets boy, they fall in love and live happily ever after! Don’t you just wish relationships were as simple as in Disney movies? Unfortunately, this is the real world, and it takes much more to maintain a good relationship with your partner. Yes, it’s exciting to be in a relationship: you have someone to lean on to, listen to, and talk to and someone who will take care of you; but how do you strengthen it and ensure that it lasts? Here are 5 musts in maintaining a good relationship!
Mutual Trust
Don’t be the crazy stalker clingy girlfriend! If you are, his patience will run out quickly and so will the lifespan of your relationship! Checking up on him once in a while isn’t bad, but give him his due space as needed. Trust him when he tells you something and understand him when he’s being difficult. Sometimes you can be an unforgiving, nagging and whiny bitch and he won’t complain; so he deserves to be understood when he has faults, too. A relationship should be all about give and take, after all.
Humility
Sometimes, pride can be the biggest hindrance in the growth of a relationship. When you get into an argument, don’t be afraid to admit your mistakes and end the misunderstanding before it goes out of control. When you admit your mistakes, the both of you will learn from them and you can avoid similar situations in the future. It will really be a win-win situation for both of you in the end!
Honesty
Sure, you trust him, but are you worthy of his trust? Once you get into a relationship, you need to commit, and that means sticking to your guy and your guy alone! Even if it happens in a lot of movies and TV shows, cheating is never okay. Be the faithful girl he deserves and don’t entertain any temptations. Not just in these instances, even with where you are, who you’re with, what you’re doing or anything at all. If you have to lie to him, even about the littlest of things, then the authenticity of your relationship is questionable. Don’t risk losing his trust because that is something difficult to get back.
Support
Your guy might not be Clark Kent, but he sure tries his best! Love him for who he is and allow him to make his own decisions (but of course, feel free to tell him how you feel about things because your opinion matters). Let him know that you will always have his back and that you won’t let him down when he needs you the most, both physically and emotionally! Even if he never admits it, he needs you all the time and your support means a lot to him. At the same time, he might try his best to be your Mr. Perfect, but let him know that he’s already perfect just the way he is.
Effort
As a busy woman, you might have a lot of things on your to-do list, but ‘spending time with my man’ should always be on it! Even if you’re swamped with work, family obligations, hangouts with friends, and other duties and activities; don’t forget that you have a boyfriend who’s craving some attention, too. Even just a call or a text to let him know that he was on your mind will do, but a good old-fashioned date would be much better. Surprise him once in a while, too, or buy him a gift! Don’t just let him do all the romancing (those days are long over), show him how much you love him in your own special way.