Every day you ask yourself: Am I ugly? Is there something wrong with my personality? When will someone ever like me? Well, chances are, someone does… just as a friend, though. Lol. I’m kidding. On a more serious note, have you ever asked yourself why you’re still single? We’re all tired of hearing cliched phrases like “your time will come” and “you just haven’t met the right guy”. Well, here are 3 of the real reasons why you probably still are.
You’re Too Busy.
Believe it or not, this could very well be the reason why you’re still single. You may be too focused on things that you deem as important for yourself and your career that you don’t find any time to go out on dates. Even though you want to meet guys and have dinner or lunch sometime, those never-ending meetings you have with your clients or org mates alway gets in the way. Wanna go out and party with your friends? Oh, wait. You have a report due tomorrow, so you’re gonna have to pass. If you really want a love life, though, you will need to think long and hard about your priorities. If you really want it, you will need to make some changes and actually make time for this aspect of your life in order for it to happen.
You’re Intimidating.
This is one problem that women with strong personalities or extra fashionable clothes deal with on a daily basis. You might overpower men too much or seem too high-maintenance. In conversations, you are probably the one who always speaks her thoughts all of the time. While you don’t really need to make any drastic changes to get someone to like you, you might want to tone things down a bit. You’ll never know how much a guy might want to come up to you to ask you out, if only your skyscraper heels didn’t make you seem so damn hard to reach in his eyes.
You’re Always With Your Friends.
How can guys approach you if you always have your girlfriends by your side? There isn’t anything wrong with having a lot of friends and hanging out with them a lot, but let’s face it: sometimes, that cute guy in the corner might just be too shy to approach you and say hi. This holds especially true if you’re the “one of the boys” type. If you are always hanging out with other guys, then he might think you’re already in a relationship with one of them. So, take a break once in a while and get some coffee by yourself sometime. Who knows? Mr. Right might just be watching you from the other table.
One way or another, it all boils down to being ready. No matter how much you might want to be in a relationship, you really have no choice but to wait and see if anyone comes your way. It’s not like boyfriends come in a box at the department store that you can just pick up and check out as needed (don’t we wish they did, though?). The key is to simply look and feel your best at all times. If you feel good about yourself, it will show, and you are sure to attract the right man in your life in the end.
What's Your Reaction?
Are you serious. I am so sick and tired of people telling me I have to tone down my attitude or change my personality for the sake of some guy liking me . I find this article to be uninspiring and to put it frankly wrong.
If a woman wants an honest and healthy relationship, she should not sacrifice her career, her friends and even her true self.
I would expect the writer of this article to know many things about how to be happy in a relationship. Obviously not.
For a “Modern Filipina”, you sound VERY prehistoric.
P.S. “lol” is not a word and its ALWAYS.
I find your article to be a bit off-setting. You do seem to have some correct points, but the way you interpret it just feels wrong to me. You SHOULD reserve some time for your dating life if you want to, but not so much that it will damage your career (and, as of picking said career, you should have been prepared to not have time for such things.) You SHOULD think about how you come across, but not change yourself into an entirely different person and not because guys find you “intimidating”. And, lastly, your potential boyfriend SHOULD be one of your friends, because you have to know a person really well-and said person must know you just as much-to be able to entrust yourself to this person.
A woman’s (or a man’s) main goal when it comes to relationships should be happiness. Whether that includes a significant other in your life or not doesn’t really matter, but I feel that anything less than the requirements that I have listed will not make me happy, and will not make anyone else happy.
I, as a woman, and a modern Filipina, am sorry to say that I do not agree with you, and you just set Feminism 50 years back.
http://sleepy-wonder.tumblr.com/post/92141177613/a-counter-argument-to-an-article
My own personal opinion. I’m not trying to offend you, I’m just trying to tell you my thoughts. Whether you agree or not is up to you.
Good read! Keep em comin
Actually, this article really makes me think behind the walls. But, is it really a problem having no boyfriend at all? Why does people always say, “HEY ARE YOU A LESBIAN?” or “HEY, WELCOME TO SINGLE BLESSEDNESS”. These really annoys me a lot. i’m 19 now, and still yeah i dont have one and i love it.
Honestly. I am not that busy… and sometimes I wish I was so I had something to focus on instead of wondering how good it has to be to feel loved that way. I’ve always been single, never been that busy ’cause I’m of those people who believe not all “spare time” must be filled in with duties/hobbies, ’cause thinking and just walking around with nothing to do lets you actually appreciate the world you live in and life itself, no matter how cruel we humans are making it sometimes. Also- I am not intimidating and people are always saying I am a relaxing person to be around and they feel serene around me; I don’t either wear makeup nor do I dress up ’cause I strongly dislike both things. Although this previous description might sound as the “full of friends” type of girl’s short bio… you have no change to get more far than that from what kind of person I actually am: I am very shy and for many other reason people my age usually has no fun around me, so I just have very few friends and they are all very independent people who do not like to be attached to you all the time (I am like that too).
I used not to think of romance, I’ve always thought it’s pointless to find a boyfriend just so you may fill that gap that the “falling with the thought of falling in love” engraves in one’s mind, especially nowadays when society is so pushing. Yet- it’s been about one year now that I cannot avoid anymore the sympathetic sights of relatives and other people who believe I am suffering believing I’ll end up alone through all my life… and well, it’s thanks to those sights that I’m now getting obsessed with the daydream of feeling liked… and then loved maybe.
Honestly. I am not that busy… and sometimes I wish I was so I had something to focus on instead of wondering how good it has to be to feel loved that way. I’ve always been single, never been that busy ’cause I’m one of those people who believe not all “spare time” must be filled in with duties/hobbies, ’cause thinking and just walking around with nothing to do lets you actually appreciate the world you live in and life itself, no matter how cruel we humans are making it sometimes. Also- I am not intimidating and people are always saying I am a relaxing person to be around and they feel serene around me; I don’t either wear makeup nor do I dress up ’cause I strongly dislike both things. Although this previous description might sound as the “full of friends” type of girl’s short bio… you have no chance to get more far than that from what kind of person I actually am: I am very shy and for many other reason people my age usually has no fun around me, so I just have very few friends and they are all very independent people who do not like to be attached to you all the time (I am like that too).
I used not to think of romance, I’ve always thought it’s pointless to find a boyfriend just so you may fill that gap that the “falling with the thought of falling in love” engraves in one’s mind, especially nowadays when society is so pushing. Yet- it’s been about one year now that I cannot avoid anymore the sympathetic sights of relatives and other people who believe I am suffering believing I’ll end up alone through all my life… and well, it’s thanks to those sights that I’m now getting obsessed with the daydream of feeling liked… and then loved maybe.
I do not agree about making some changes so that you can have a date. Even though you are busy, you can always have time dating.
My conclusion, THIS IS SO WRONG.